Black girls rock

Black girls rock.  The event aired the other night and twitter was in an uproar.  Women all over my timeline were celebrating each other!  It was exciting to see.  Now usually, women don't bash each other SO much that this was crazy but it is rare that a unified movement happens.  I will be the first to say, I'm tough on women.  I'm disgusted by hoe activities and the mistress' running around.  I told myself I wouldn't deal with someone who was already in a relationship anymore and it's been one part of my growth process that I am actually proud of.  (If and when I've slipped, disappointment sets in) Anyway, I'm not judging women that do it, because each situation is unique and emotions are unpredictable however I do want more for them and settling for anything less or inadequate just disgusts me on so many levels.  We're at an age where we can learn and apply it so as far as accepting the excuses, I won't.  Back to the the point, women were celebrating and the men were bashing us - as per usual.  Either they were saying that every other race of woman rocks, which let me just say that there is NO race of woman that wasn't birthed and raised by the BLACK WOMAN.  They were also saying that we were too busy hoeing and being basic to rock.  Now though I agree, that is happening somewhere in the world right now by a few women considered Black, the truth is, we're not ALL doing it.  


Considering Black men and women BOTH started at the bottom of the socioeconomic totem pole via slavery, Black women have made the most strides for any one race.  Black men, not so much.  Yeah their numbers in college have increased but there's more Black men in jail than there were slaves in 1850.  That's basic, that's hoeing.  Sometimes people think that their scope only includes the people they know.  That's simply not true.  We're not perfect but we're an example.  Of course I understand that they're joking but are they? I questioned their motives considering these men have Black mothers to which they brought up that their mothers were not as basic as this generation of women and managed to raise all their children on their own.  As a mother and as a woman who has a mother, that is one of the highest accomplishments there is but that does not degrade the path that we (this generation) is on.  The two generations are incomparable considering that most women in this age gap haven't even had their children yet and isn't it some kind of commendable that we are raising ourselves to be the best parent we can be for children that we will raise later?  Yes some mothers raised a large amount of children by themselves but that's a job that you sign up for.  You had them, you raise them.  It's nice when people appreciate that accomplishment but I and most mothers I know don't wake up every day seeking reward.  We made our bed and now we have to lie in it literally.  Thank you for the credit but mentally, how much credit should we get for doing what we're supposed to do?  And for the women raising these children by themselves, wouldn't that mean that Black men are missing?  So we rock, because WE ARE THE ROCK. 


This generation of women has a lot more to accomplish but we have also accomplished a lot.  We are running nearly 75% of homes, we have penetrated corporate America by holding down a significant percentage in high positions within fortune 500 companies, we have incredible rates of attending AND graduating college and the percentage of women doing something positive and lucrative is much higher than the percentage of women in videos portraying otherwise.  This is not to bash Black men, they have made their strides.  But as a Black man, choose your words carefully.  Yes, your mother did an amazing job but it's this generation of women that will be the mother of your children.  Before you criticize how we run our lives, how about joining us and being a part of them?  Before you praise another nationality of women for being exotic please ask yourselves what is more exotic than being the mother of civilization, than running kingdoms under your manicured nails and birthing mankind?  Before you go into how basic we are, please remind yourselves that freedom is a basic human right and you barely have that as many of you occupy a box that should have been a cubicle but sadly, it's not.  Before you even step to our front door with your criticisms please take note.  We have raised you, we have loved you, we have marched for you, we have raised your children in your absence, we have cried for you, we have sat on the other side of the glass waiting for the day to hold you again so how dare you think of us as anything less than queens?  You?!  Not you good brother. Not you.  And I understand, we as women have to hold ourselves to those standards, we have to believe that we are beautiful but don't forget we face a society that reminds us how imperfect we are as well.  You don't have to jump on the bandwagon.  You don't have to agree.  When we're feeling down or whether we're feeling good about ourselves, the least you could do is appreciate what we've done and believe in what we can do.


Black girls rock because WE ARE THE ROCK and if you, the Black man cannot see that, you will be kicking rocks for a few more centuries.