fairytales

if you've ever watched a childhood movie, is it me or does the prince fall madly in love with his princess before they have sex?  now granted, i'm sure children's movies don't add the sex in there for a reason but it really has you thinking that a man will fall in love with you and decide to marry you without having sex.  in this sex driven society, is that really happening?  i learned a long time ago that i am no princess and i have yet to meet a prince willing to put a ring on my finger before i shove these panties and these morals to the side of the bed, conveniently placed next to a box of condoms. (SAFE SEX!) but is it happening?  are men willing to date women that are not putting out?  can you have a meaningful relationship without sex?  are there men out there willing to fall in love and stay faithful to a woman he hasn't been intimate with?


YES YES YES YES YES!!!!!


are you shocked? because i was!  recently i asked, "what's the longest you've gone without sex?"  with much respect to the honesty of the women who answered, some said ten months, twelve, fifteen and eighteen months!  they are all better women than me.  though i was impressed with their longevity in remaining celibate, i was more impressed with their reasons why.  it's pretty simple.  they're waiting for the right guy.  two of them are even waiting until they're engaged or married!  to be honest, they're all gorgeous, ambitious and kind women so if they aren't having sex, it's because they really don't want to.  men are practically begging for a chance but they've held their ground and their panties until they find a man they want in a relationship they require.  not only is that noble but that's bold.  they are recreating modern day fairytales.  whenever their prince shows up, they will have an amazing experience waiting for him, that has been designated JUST FOR HIM.  that is beautiful.  now, i know you're wondering well, of course you can be celibate while you're single but can you be celibate in a serious relationship? well one of the ladies is in a happy relationship that is working towards marriage.  let's call her Molly.  even though Molly has never been celibate for this long, never mind in a relationship, she is genuinely happy with their decision to wait.  in fact, he's the one that initiated the celibacy.  it's amazing to me that they're building their own love story.  there really are princes out there looking for a princess for who she is and not what she has to offer. this is proof that if you set your standards, most will fail to meet them but there are some who will rise to the occasion.  


fairytales are happening.  women are taking their destiny into their own hands and they are confident that they will find what they are looking for.  Molly already has.  now this raises a bigger question.  are the rest of us having sex out of physical weakness, just because we think we HAVE to or because we genuinely want to be intimate with this person?  whatever the reason, are you comfortable with it?


i'm just in awe that there are still young women deciding the route their relationships will take especially because so many of us are so afraid to lose whatever we have, that we end up just going with the flow.  i applaud their ability to know what they want and for refusing to settle until they get it!


to the ladies waiting for their prince, i'm hoping for the best.
and to the rest of us still kissing frogs, i'm still hoping for the best.