the ex boyfriend

oh ... the title alone says it all.  where do we draw the line when it comes to 'the ex boyfriend'? and i say 'the ex boyfriend' because there's always one, sometimes, two that we carry with us long after the relationship has dissipated.  can you ever just be friends without stepping on the 'new' boyfriend's toes?  i'm not saying that every ex boyfriend matters but what's the safest distance for the ones that do? can we talk about sports? movies? but do we leave out the parts about relationships? mothers? sisters? where do we draw the line to make sure we don't cross it?  and how can you ever learn about anyone else (the new boyfriend) when you remember 'the ex boyfriends' favorite things?

and i'm all for the 'let's be friends' phase after you've stopped being angry about not being more than friends.  but somewhere in the midst of the friendship you've come into by default, isn't it obvious why y'all got together in the first place? he still makes you laugh. he still remembers the little things that matter to you. he's still the guy you fell in love with (if you did fall in love). and now he's just your friend.  you'll probably spend more time convincing yourself that he's a friend than actually believing it.

all i'm saying is, if you would get back with him tomorrow, maybe he's not just friend.



since we're on the topic of ex boyfriend/new boyfriend, look at my flowers. they get prettier every day.